What to do when you think you’ve missed the Cuffing Season window…

The Holiday Season and Cold Weather is quickly approaching us if not already upon us, meaning Cuffing Season is here. For those not familiar with the term Urban Dictionary describes it as…

“During the Fall and Winter months people would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be  “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.”

So there you have it Cuffing Season.

But, what do you do when all your prospects have all of a sudden cuffed up with someone not you? After you delete them out of your phone forever (if they don’t want you during cuffing season, chances are they’re just not that into you), eat a pint of frozen yogurt with gummy bears and strawberries as toppings, do a little retail therapy, and boost your self esteem by seeing how many people you can match with on Bumble…try the below 5 Things that’ll leave you Cuffed with Yourself and not with some random dude (well only if you want to…) during this holiday season…

  1. Pick Up A Hobby – Learning to knit will give you something to do during the evenings and keep you cozily warm and stylish as well.
  2. Spin Your Heart Out – Soul Cycle (spinning) is the best exercise to do when it’s cold outside, the instructors will leave you feeling inspired and good about yourself as well! Not to mention you’ll have a leg up when bikini season comes around.
  3. Plan A New Year’s Adventure – Can there be a better New Years Resolution then being somewhere that  you normally wouldn’t be on the 31st of December? I think NOT. Adventure is good for the soul.
  4. Binge Watch and Chill – Preferably with a bottle of Rosé, a bag of popcorn, and gummy bears. Soo many good shows to choose from, Sex and the City, The Handmaid’s Tale, Harlots, Grey’s Anatomy, and The Client List have been some of my fave.
  5. Cuddle With Your Doggy – Or if you don’t have one, your friend’s doggy. They love you unconditionally and are always happy to see you. Much better then a boy! 🙂

Xo, Kelli @kellithinks on Instagram

A Quick Note To...

A Quick Note to…And Lessons Other Boys Can Learn “Wing Man Era?”

This a quick note to the douche bag wearing a blue ombre buttoned t-shirt (buttoned all the way up) and then his cardigan wearing friend with a British accent at Bogies in Westlake Village.

So, it’s perfectly fine that neither of you wanted to flirt with me, and that you found my friend the object of both of your attentions. Although, I’m not quite sure how that works, do you guys share her?? But, here’s where I get a little sour, DO NOT make that girl’s friend feel like crap by blocking her out of the conversation entirely. You WILL NOT win. Mostly because, I was standing there like is this really happening right now? Who do these guys think they are? I might not be a blonde but I’m attractive in my own right.  And then I was pissed, did they both really just block me from dancing with my friend? And should I be mad at my friend for letting that happen? Anyway, I ended up leaving and my friend followed. But the real question here is…

What happened to the wing man era?

Isn’t one of you supposed to be into the “other girl “ who’s not being pursued? So that your friend has alone time to win the other girl over. Or is there no winning over anymore? Is it all just a game? Did Bumble, Tinder, and whatever new exclusive dating app ruin it for everyone.  I can only assume that there’s no wing man anymore because there are supposedly lots of options we can choose from and there doesn’t need to be, one can simply go to an app to find their next best thing.

I don’t know about you, but I miss the wing man. It was nice to watch from afar and see if your friend was going to be won over. Or to figure out mid convo that you weren’t being wing manned at all.

What do you think? Was this a one off? Or do you think this is true?

Missed Connections

Missed Connections – Tacos Por Favor Guy

Hi, Tacos Por Favor Guy! I saw you on July 20th when you walked into this awesome taco establishment on Olympic next door to Coffee Bean. I noticed you right away, because you were the only guy in the taco shop wearing a suit. Justin Timberlake would be proud of you because you were on your suit and tie game. Anyway… I was sitting inside Tacos For Favor, with a Male Co-Worker, eating a chicken Hard Taco and Carne Asada Soft Taco (Maybe these details will help you remember me??)  and you walked by me and smiled. I looked away because lets be honest I’m sometimes very awkward around the male species. Especially attractive ones. Immediately I regretted it though and looked back. Did you notice? You then sat down at the high table by the window and ate your tacos silently and alone. I could only hope and wish this means you’re single too! And that you didn’t think I was on a date with my male co-worker. Anyway…I regret not saying hi that day and looking away awkwardly. If you read this, please reach out and let me know what salsa I had with my tacos so I know it’s you. Thanks!


The Single Girl Life

Welcome to The Single Girl Life! A blog where I write about everything this single female has on her mind. Men fortunately or unfortunately take up a lot of my mind time. So, I’ll be writing about them of course. “Quick Note To…” will be all about my guy mishaps and unfortunate situations and  “Missed Connections” will be about cute guys I encountered in public and didn’t chat with but wish I did. We’ve all had one or two or three of those…lol. Traveling as a single female has also been a huge part of my life, so I’ll be sharing some of those adventures, travel secrets, and places I wish to adventure with you! And, growing up acting and modeling, Fashion and Beauty have been a HUGE part of my life, so I’ll share my fun thrift shop finds, beauty products, must have items, and dream items with you! This blog isn’t just for the single it’s also for the single at heart because we should never forget who we are even in relationships. Who’s ready to read on? Can’t wait to interact with all of you! 🙂 Kelli